QOTD: are you hitting on me?

question of the day: is there such a thing as harmless flirting? why or why not?

It's the spice of life!!!!!

plead the 5th

it all depends on who its between - if both people know its just harmless flirting and there is absolutely no real intent behind it, than yes; usually, however, there is intent between at least one of the people, which than makes it not harmless anymore

It seems like a person often considers flirting harmless when they themselves aren’t being harmed. The catch is when the harmless flirter doesn’t realize (or care) that the person they’re flirting with is being harmed. I guess it depends on the situation.

No. If you have a significant other and you are flirting, your significant other could be hurt by hearing about or seeing you flirt first hand. If you are single and you are flirting, you may have no intentions of starting a relationship with the person, but they may have feelings for you that will be hurt when they realize that you were just flirting and not actually giving them a signal. Also, if you are single and flirting with someone that has no interest in you, you are going to look really dumb or they are going to be offended/slap you with a sexual harassment lawsuit or worse - a restraining order. 500 yards means 500 yards people, regardless of how high-powered you claim your binoculars are.

Absolutely. It's the intent behind it that matters. If you're flirting just to flirt and maybe boost your ego a bit, that's fine. If you're flirting to see where you can get with that person and maybe act upon it that's not okay. This is all assuming that you're involved with someone, otherwise it's a moot point.

Of course there is such a thing as harmless flirting. I think humans need validation at a certain level from other people (besides their loved ones) that they are interesting, attractive, and sexy. If I could only talk to one female for the rest of my life, I think I'd shoot myself.

there is definately harmless flirting. and i see absolutely nothing wrong with it. it makes life a little more fun and interesting. just don't lead someone on... but if people are cool with it, play on.

Sort of. It depends on the likelyhood of anything actually happening. I just want a reason to write 'inversely propotional'. Ladies, does that make you hot? if so, call me at....

i guess so, but it depends on the motives and the method. for instance, if two people in committed relationships flirt with each other, but neither are really interested in anything more than that, i suppose it is harmless. but, if someone is aware that another person is interested in them, and they just flirt because they like the attention, but never intend on anything more, then thats destructive and hurtful. also, it depends on what you consider flirting. some people flirt without realizing it, and other people will grab your ass and say how bad they want to bleep you in your bleep, and think thats just a little harmless flirting.

As long as it stays harmless. I flirt all the time. Gets me free drinks, meals and the ladies are willing to provide work related info without the normal b#tching. Occasionally, I get a klinger, but as long as they don’t know where I live, it’s kewl..

Yes, it’s human nature. We all know where the line is, of course this is different for everyone. Flirting becomes harmful when people cross the line or put themselves in potentially bad situations.

Yes, there is. Why? It makes the day more fun

i think there is such a thing as harmless flirting. how do you think girls get out of tickets? j/k. i guess it's different if you're in a relationship, b/c it's only harmless if the other person in the relationship wouldn't be upset by it, regardless of the intent. if they would be upset, it's not really harmless. if they wouldn't be upset, wouldn't you wonder why?